Saturday, December 15, 2012

Memoirs of a Prayer Wheel

Bright Prayer flags against gloomy sky.
His eyes were red from crying for the past two days. On the top of everything, the heavy clouds and the gloomy irksome mood it created was SO annoying! Arrgh! Manus father had made a bitter choice. Not a bitter choice according to them – to them it was a good choice, it was bitter only to him. He never expected his little sister, to drive him out of Kathmandu; well again it was not entirely her – it was fate, it so seemed.


"Naniiiii, my rattle broke", complained little Manu to his grandmother. Playing with a rattle at an age of 6 might seem abnormal; but it was the only toy he had.

"Wait for 2 weeks before you get a real toy to play with sweet one", chirped his grandmother, kissing him tenderly; hinting as his yet to come sister.

Encouraged by the spoiling, he retreated to her lap. His grandmother was the only person who loved him unconditionally, thought Manu. His father had liked him too. But that was until their father started acting strange and started saying things like in Kathmandu there were no rains, no grains… his fathers eyes became sad when he said this, his eyebrows were raised and forehead furrowed, he seemed serious, but Manu found the whole repertoire funny – "no rains, no grains" : he hollered, of course when his father was not around!

His father was a much happy man since his tête-à-tête with the villages' veteran. Manu gathered that the veteran had prelidicted about the arrival of a girl child and troubles vanishing, something along those lines. Something that was too much for Manu to comprehend.

Boudhnath, Nepal
His eyes were red from all the crying the night before. His father explained him that he had to honor the wow he had given to their resident god in want of a girl child. Now that God had kept his word, he had to keep his; and send Manu to Vihara, (or Monastery), the nearest was Boudhnath about 11 kms away from Kathmandu. Manu could see the mortifying prayer flags from their household. His father continued explanation that he will not have to placate with a rattle anymore. He can find a dozen other children of his age. He will have a dozen new playmates. Father said that he will have lavish food, he will not have to go hungry to bed another day in his life.

None of it seemed convincing. He will miss the Dohori, folk songs that his father sung. None of it could soothe Manu. He was not willing to part. He was terrified – of leaving his home, his mother and most importantly his nani.


That dreaded day had arrived. That cloudy day. The sky welled and waited to burst out any moment, amidst a strong breeze Manu was taken into custody by a monk, who seemed his fathers age. The monk unlike his father didn’t have furrows on his forehead, he appeared to be strangely calm.

Two weeks later, Manu sufficiently adjusted to the repertoire. A senior, Shiju, helped him throughout.  He presented him with prayer wheel – a very pretty red and gold one; a gold-bead dangled alongside suspended by a thread. Shiju said it helped “concentrate during meditation”. Manu acknowledged it as a token of friendship and asked him the unallowed – "Will you be my friend?"

Shiju looked astonished. He, then, spoke at lengths about "how attachments caused the feeling of ego", haves, have-nots, disappointment and detachment. Manu gaped at Shiju as he spoke the incomprehensible litany. Shiju also told him that Bodhisattvas dedicate their lives to bodhicitta i.e for the sake of all beings. He ended the lecture saying that, "You, Manu, you are a Bodhisattva too. Now tell me what would be expected of you and me?". 


There was a little boy near the main Stupa. His eyes were red, apparently from crying. His father said - "Shorab, chalo beta". Shorab should have also been about seven.

Shorabs' father submitted him to the Boudhnath monastery and left him in the lavish hall. Shorab knew his father was not returning to him, he knew that I-will-come-in-two-days was a lie. He wiped his eyes, disappointed and looked around unsure whom to turn to. He was intimidated by the guru in charge though he seemed to be a pleasant person, with laughter wrinkles around his eyes. He submitted when his guru took him by his little finger...

Manu showed Shorab through the Monastery. Shorab took an immediate liking to Manu and asked him the unacceptable - "Are you my friend?". That very question Manu had asked 40 years ago. . .

Forty years later, Manu retrospected, nothing had changed. Nothing had changed but for the sky. It was not gloomy anymore, he noticed, wait - it sported a rainbow!

He smiled, took the child by his side and gave him a prayer wheel - a red and gold one with the five elements carved on it. . .

The Buddhist stupa of Boudhanath dominates the skyline. The ancient Stupa is one of the largest in the world. The influx of large populations of refugees from Tibet has seen the construction of over 50 Tibetan Gompas (Monasteries) around Boudhanath. As of 1979, Boudhanath is a UNESCO World Heritage Site. Along with Swayambhunath, it is one of the most popular tourist sites in the Kathmandu area.

"The Three Jewels", Buddha, Dharma and Sangha,[dubious – discuss] as well as the concepts of karma,rebirth (and reincarnation) and the practice of yoga existed before Gautama lived but they later became associated with Buddhism.
This post is part of the contest Tibet: Roof of the world. Its people : Roofless.. on inspired by the Photo Fiction book


  1. It's a sweet story...left me smiling,but somehow it seems a teeny bit cruel to send kids away like that...from home.

  2. Hmm....little boys becoming monks... they must forget their childhood and adapt a life of strict discipline... Enjoyed the read!

  3. @Talitha - I ditto that, we rob their childhood away.

    @Rajrupa - Absolutely, this write was inspired by a little monk whom i met in Enchey Monastery, Darjeeling last year :) Very little thing, it must have pined for the parents to part him.

  4. @^ Enchey Monastery, Sikkim - that was an error :)

  5. Even i was curious to knw abt added speaks more;)kool one....;)Like to add one more comment...Will share it offline....

  6. @Ratz... thank you babes! sure awaiting that 'offline' comment :D

    Thanks Naresh!!!!!!! Such a suprise - you here!! THANKS so much!!!

  7. My husband and I watched a documentary last week about a man seeking a lama's reincarnation. The boy, when found, was separated from his parents as in your story. It was a great honor to the family, but sad to all involved, as well.

  8. @Ann - thats a bitter sweet moment right... :) thanks for your visit, hope to see more of you here.

  9. i specially created my account to post comment for this blog!!

  10. this was sweet -good one kappu :) :)

  11. wow Awesome write up Kappu how well you have written the story line is very touching and liked the detailing about bhoudism. The "Mane & Stupas & Gompa" which u have described in stories also took me to so deep in it when I visited ladakh that I craved to read about them and learnt more about them later.

    All the best for the contest.

  12. Hi Karpagam,

    Really well-written congrats :) made me read it twice!


  13. it is cruel but then that is the tradition they follow ..

    liked the story


  14. Some really interesting spiritual writing. Not everyone can succeed in this. You have handled it deftly....well done, kappu :)

  15. I have heard about this too, its definitely mean and cruel. But to them its a ritual that must be followed...

  16. Have read a few on this topic, must say yours is sweetest :D

  17. prayerful wishes and greetings to make your New Year bright and beautiful

  18. @Bikram - many thanks for the visit! I agree with you, it is a devastating tradition.

    @Ghazala - thank you, but this is a non competitive entry due to not submitting the entry on time :)

    @Rithika - Tell me about it and thanks for your visit, appreciate!

    @Panchali di - thanks a lot, I have been following your writing with all my might this month. I have a LOT to learn from you!

    @Sahi, Vinisha, Naresh :) :) sweet!

    Thanks Mahesh ji! Am glad you liked it!

    @Ramya - I have been to a couple of monasteries too, so this was sort of inspired one :) Tough times these lil ones have... having to let go of life... and wants... I cant even imagine!